I tried the secular dating sites–Zoosk, SeniorMeet (believe it or not there are a lot of young people on that one), and no success over three months in finding a man who is willing to commit. I got a lot who simply wanted booty. They didn't want a smart, intelligent woman. They wanted an attractive, empty headed sexpot. Now, the reason I am doing this is not because I want a man–on the contrary, I want to see what dating is like out there for real women–both secular and religious.
One of my friends suggested it might be because I hadn't "put the Lord into my relationship seeking," (HUH?) so I signed up at EHarmony to find out what Jesus' will for a mate might be for me. I put in my profile what every red blooded American conservative Republican Christian male would want to hear:
- A woman who loves the Lord and put Him first in her life
- A woman who knows her Christian place in a relationship (submit to the man as the church should to Christ)
- A woman who has nothing better to do with her time and education than read the Bible and pray like crazy.
Interestingly enough, the men have clustered around my profile like bees to honey. I've been getting 6-10 matches a day with men all over the US (mostly the South–surprise surprise–and the American West–again, surprise, surprise), who are dying to contact me as if I were the last Christian woman on earth. The best REAL profile ever that I read? You'll love it:
I desire to have someone to share my life with that is genuine, god loving and understands what her responsibilities in a marriage are and is not afraid of working at a marital relationship. There is so much of the world that I have seen but there is still alot left to explore and enjoy. I would rather not do it alone. I desire a christian women who could have made it out west in a covered wagon (Prairie Schooner). A strong and determined women like my grandmothers' and mother were and like my 3 sisters are. A christian women with the beauty and charm of Donna Reed and the ornryness and tenacity of of Granny Clampett.
THIS is what men want? Really? Not one wants an educated, attractive woman. Not one profile wanted that. They all wanted a "physically fit" [all of them so far have listed this first] Christian woman who prays and loves Jesus and knows her "duty" as a Christian woman in a relationship. On EHarmony, nearly every man's profile reads this same way (minus the crap about wanting a woman who could have made it out west in a covered wagon). If this is what is out there for my Christian sisters, I want to assure you, you have my deepest sympathies.
They really love Jesus on EHarmony. Stick with me the next few weeks to see the religious zealots find a mate. Next week I'll be my secular self on eHarmony and see if anything changes. Should be a trip!