Nonviolent Communication A Language of Life
Nonviolent Communication A Language of Life
Do you hunger for skills to improve the quality of your relationships, to deepen your sense of personal empowerment or to simply communicate more effectively? Unfortunately, for centuries our culture has taught us to think and speak in ways that can actually perpetuate conflict, internal pain and even violence. Nonviolent Communication partners practical skills with a powerful consciousness and vocabulary to help you get what you want peacefully.
In this internationally acclaimed text, Marshall Rosenberg offers insightful stories, anecdotes, practical exercises and role-plays that will dramatically change your approach to communication for the better. Discover how the language you use can strengthen your relationships, build trust, prevent conflicts and heal pain. Revolutionary, yet simple, NVC offers you the most effective tools to reduce violence and create peace in your life — one interaction at a time.
Over 150,000 copies sold and now available in 20 languages around the world. More than 250,000 people each year from all walks of life are learning these life-changing skills.
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3 Stars Nonviolent Communication vs. PNDC – Powerful Non-Defensive Communication
I think there are some valuable insights and tools in Nonviolent Communication, and I'm very heartened to see a yearning growing among people, the desire to be able to talk to and listen to each other more fully, freely and openly. At the same time, for someone who wants to learn to talk to others (and themselves, as well!) in a more open and less defensive way, in a way that makes it easier for people to speak openly to each other, I find Sharon Ellison's book, Taking the War Out of Our Words: Powerful Non-Defensive Communication, a much clearer, more complete and more effective paradigm and method for a non-defensive model of communication than Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication. Taking The War Out Of Our Words (2009 Edition)
I have found value in Rosenberg's lists of feelings and, in peripheral ways, in some of his exercises, among other things. However, while one of the stated aims of the process is to eliminate judgement and criticism, I respond to some of his dialogue as if there is judgement hidden within it. I also find his methods rather cumbersome.
Taking the War Out of Our Words gives me a substantially different, much more positive experience. In the presence of Ellison's writing – explanation, description, exercises, examples, and so on – I find myself relaxing, and feeling safe even while I confront and acknowledge the ways in which I myself act defensively. Her book is very rich in detailed examples, and alive with individual voices. (It also has a wonderful index to the examples, so you can follow them from one part of the book to another.) I find encouragement and acceptance, as well as simple, clear steps I can immediately begin to apply to the way I say things. It has been my experience that these small changes often make a rapid difference.
Ellison's process speaks more strongly to me than Rosenberg's, and I find it more gentle as well as clearer. I believe that her framework is simultaneously both more radical and simpler than Marshall Rosenberg's. To me, Rosenberg's system nibbles at the edges of our difficulties in communicating with each other, where Sharon Ellison's sweeps the rubble out of the center and starts rebuilding the structures of our communication, but in a way that makes an intuitive kind of sense.
Ellison examines and identifies the fundamental structures of our languages (not only English, but many other languages as well) which, it seems, almost inevitably cause defensiveness between us, even when we don't mean them to. I find her tools profoundly practical and useful, and I find it easy to begin applying them; and even though the process of becoming significantly less defensive is a long one, and not very easy, the encouraging experience of little successes, here and there, helps keep me going. It also seems to me that achieving the very smallest changes, working with everyday issues, is in the end what creates the deepest shift.
Despite my own preference for Sharon Ellison's paradigm and tools, I would not want to discourage anyone from trying Rosenberg's program. At the same time, I would encourage anyone who experiences any difficulty in applying his system not to give up on the hope of learning a more peaceable and open way of communication, but to have a look at Ellison's book and see if you find it more helpful.
5 Stars This is a doorway into a new way of thinking and joyful living for me
I am so glad I stumbled on this book last year. I have used it many times to guide me through discussions in a calm and compassionate way. It has helped me to become a kind communicator. I can express the loving kind intent I have in a way that is understood and appreciated by others. I recommend this book for every individual, read it, follow it and use it in situations like discussing finances and difficult situations with your partner. This will eliminate the arguments and tangents that usually come up and it will allow you to be completly understood in a loving way. It's amazing!
5 Stars This book changed my life
I keep buying it so I can give it to other people. That says it all!
5 Stars life-changing communication skill
I was not unfamiliar with NVC concepts, having been versed in it when I took a mediation skills training seminar. But I had not read this book cover-to-cover and did so for a workshop specifically on Rosenberg's NVC. I am glad I did because although the workshop left it optional to actually read this text, the book is easy to read, explains concepts well, uses real-life examples and conversations which are very helpful and is overall, in my opinion, a life-changing book if these concepts are put to practice. I have used NVC and found it to untangle difficult communication situations, enhance normal communication and has even helped me listen to myself better. I plan to adopt NVC as a regular part of my daily life.
5 Stars the best book so far
i HAVE GIVEN THIS BOOK TO ALL MY FAMILY FOR CHRISTMAS BECAUSE IT IS THE BEST SOURCE OF CREATING PEACE IN STRESSFUL SITUATIONS. WE CAN ALWAYS LEARN BETTER WAYS OF GETTING ALONG.
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